Sometimes I like to check my blog stats and see where the traffic to my blog comes from. I never know who is reading it, and I think it's fun to see all the different places and people that have at least stopped by once or twice to see what I have to say. Unfortunately I get to see a few places that link to my blog that I wish I never saw.
I don't take being not liked very well. I understand that not everyone in the world will get along, personalities sometimes don't mesh, and it happens. That still doesn't mean that I like to find out that people don't like me. I go out of my way to be nice to everyone I meet, because that's just the person I am. I wasn't always like that, but when I left high school I grew up. If someone meets me, I'm nice to them, and still there's something about me they don't like, that's fine. I hardly like everyone I meet. I just wish people would actually MEET and/or talk to me before they publicly pass judgement on me and my life.
I didn't start this blog to pretend to be something I'm not. I simply like to write things down so I will always remember them. I also kept getting some of the same questions over and over from people and thought putting the answers down would help them to see how I feel/deal with things. I also have a lot of friends all over the world, and this is an easy way for them to see what I'm up to when we can't connect in other ways because of our vastly different schedules.
If you meet me in person and you know nothing about me and ask me what my fiance does for a living I will do all that I can to avoid telling you what he does. It's not because I'm ashamed or anything like that, but I want to be judged on who I am as a person rather than on Mike's profession. I realize that this may seem strange when I don't hide it on twitter or on this blog, but does a salesperson really need to know that my fiance plays hockey when I'll likely spend 4 minutes of my life talking to her? No, she doesn't. If it ever gets to a point where I can't avoid telling the person what he does any longer, than I'll tell them.
I don't ever pretend to be something I'm not, and I don't pretend Mike is something he's not. I'm not afraid to tell people the different levels Mike has played, and where he's spent the majority of his time. When someone asks what team he plays for my response is always "for the (insert current NHL parent team)'s organization for their AAA affiliate in (insert current city)". Is that incorrect information? No, not at all. When he was in the Coast, I just told them the team, because he wasn't with an NHL organization then. I never acted like he was somewhere he wasn't. It's actually a huge pet peeve of mine to hear people claim to be with/play for a team they really don't.
Ever see a "coach" claiming to have AHL/NHL experience wanting to work with your child but you don't recognize their name? Go to hockeydb.com, it doesn't lie. You can find out what exactly their experience is. There are people out there claiming to have that kind of experience because they simply attended a pre-season camp for 3 days once in their careers. I guess technically they did, but they're advertising like they did something more. Why lie? Just be honest. We ALWAYS are. If the NHL comes up, I make sure to say he spent x amount of days on a call up due to injury.
To claim that both/either of us is delusional or weird because he's not an NHL regular over the past 10 seasons isn't fair. That doesn't mean that our experiences are any less valid. Nor does it mean that the experiences of other wives/guys don't matter because they aren't regulars either. Our lives are real. Our stresses are real. Our feelings are real. I could care less what level Mike is playing at, I will be just as nervous watching him play an NHL game as I was at a college game, and as I would an AHL game, ECHL game, etc. The level doesn't affect my feelings or make them less real. I just want him to be the best he can wherever he is. That just means I love him.
If my wedding planning posts, triple berry crisp recipe post, 2 favorite songs post, etc. offended anyone because I don't have status, I apologize. If you don't like me or my blog, that's fine. No one is making you read it. To go out and call us names when you've never once interacted with either of us is rude, mean, and unnecessary. Unless you've talked to me about it, you have no idea what I'm thinking, how I'm feeling, or what I believe. I don't think I'm better than people because I date a goalie, I was just simply explaining my feelings and experiences I've had in MY life. And if someone thinks I'm weird for having a blog, then that's their prerogative. Why go out and publicly say that to others? It's mean, and hurtful.
People will tell me to get thicker skin, to ignore it, but come on. How do you not get your feelings hurt when you see/hear someone say something mean about you or the person you love? I am a human being. I just want to ask people to do one thing: if there is something you read here or hear someplace that I've said that you don't like just come to me about it. I'd be more than happy to explain my opinions/feelings. I just write what comes, and I don't go back and edit my feelings, which can sometimes lead me into trouble. Things don't always come out the way I meant them and I'd rather clear it up than be attacked by someone who misunderstood. I may hate confrontation, but I'll always be willing to discuss things. Sometimes I'll clear things up, other times I'll apologize because maybe I was being rude and didn't realize it until after.
This is the one and only time I'll write a post like this. I think this one time struck a nerve because it wasn't just me the person said something hurtful about. You go after me, I'll be hurt. You go after the people I love, I get angry. I won't say who said it, although I'm sure some will figure it out. I won't attack or name call them, because that's just not who I am. I'm sure this person has their reasons for disliking us, whatever they are. I just wish they hadn't had to say what they did so publicly without bothering to discuss their issues with us beforehand. End rant.
Wait, one more thing. Another major pet peeve? Irresponsible journalism/blogging. When did it become okay to not check with sources before printing something as fact? Wouldn't you want to only print the truth (if you're not running a tabloid anyway)? Don't always believe what you read if there are no quotes from the actual source/sources, or even an anonymous one (although obviously those aren't always true either). Now end rant, haha.