Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Wedding Dress Shopping Part 1

I've mentioned before that I'm totally a sucker for romance.  I've seen probably every rom-com out there, and more than once.  It can be a horrible movie and yet I'll probably watch it a second, third, fourth, etc time if I happen to see it on TV, and I'll probably cry.  Unfortunately, I'm also a crier.  However, one thing that you learn in just about every movie/TV show/book that involves a wedding, is that when you try on dresses, you will just know which one is "the one".

I always wondered how true that was.  For a romantic, that seemed a bit far fetched for me.  You just know?  What does that feel like?  Oh, I should also mention that I'm the worst decision maker in the entire world.  Seriously.  If I could have someone make almost all of my decisions for me, I would.  I always second guess myself, and wonder if maybe something else was a better option.  I fret over decisions until people tell me to just shut up already.  And is there really a much bigger decision to make in your own wedding than what dress you will wear?  Indecisiveness does not make me feel confident in that whole you'll just know thing.

I went wedding dress shopping with my mom and one of my bridesmaids today.  I was super nervous, but also really excited.  I ended up trying on 8 dresses and ended up loving 3 of them.  All 3 were so different and yet I could completely see myself in all 3 of them.  I walked out in the first dress I tried on, and I felt it.  This was the one!  Then I tried the second one on and it was the one!  Then the third and so was that!  Oh boy.  I did try on a few that just did absolutely nothing for me, even though I didn't know why.  At least I didn't have 8 options to think about!

And then something hit me.  THE dress.  The one I saw way back in June right after we'd gotten engaged and I haven't been able to stop looking at yet.  This store didn't have it.  Another store does.  Gah.  Why do I do this to myself?!  The thing is, no matter how much I love those dresses I tried on today, I will never forgive myself if I don't try on the dress I've been obsessing over for the last almost 4 months.

Maybe I'll try it on and it'll hit me.  I'll just know, and I'll walk out of that store with my wedding dress.  Maybe I'll try it on and find that it just doesn't look as good on me as the others from today did, and that's okay too.  Maybe I'll end up trying on yet another dress at this other store and that will be the one.  One thing I do know is that until I try on that dress, I won't possibly be able to make a decision.  If that moment, the you just know moment, actually exists I know it won't come until I know what I'll look like in that 1 dress.  And for the record, it had elements of all 3 of the dresses I ended up loving today.  Now I just have to wait another week in pure agony wondering.  Fingers crossed!


  1. I am, like you, very indecisive. My family makes a big joke of it and I legitimately told my mother one day that I was incapable of making any sort of decisions that I just couldn't do it (we were on a road trip to Pittsburgh).

    But I also agree that if you don't try on that dress (not that I've ever done any wedding dress shopping, so don't really know - best I can equate it to is prom dress shopping and that was quite a few years ago now and I didn't have a specific dress, just specific style) that you've been dreaming about you probably will second guess your decision.

    I also just read in Cosmo that apparently washing your hands after a decision might make it easier to not second guess things...just a little tidbit you might find interesting - don't really know if it works, but I guess it's worth a try.

    Good luck on finding and purchasing your dream dress!

  2. You really will know.

    And I don't only say that because I knew, I'm saying that because I was a bridal consultant for 2 years. I've sold thousands of wedding dresses and the girls always knew. Some cry, some just don't want to take it off, but no matter what - they never feel the NEED to try on anything else!

    Good luck. I'm sure you'll pick something beautiful!!